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when did being a hippy mum give folk the right to be horrid and sanctimonious?
Sorry perhaps I’m being a little over sensitive, I wanted to be a hippy earth mother, I felt terribly cheated that circumstances meant that many of the hippy options were taken away from me. Mostly though I felt the lack of support from hippier groups and people, that if I didn’t do it tyheir way I was failing or selfish.
I’m lucky enough to live somewhere where breast feeding is the norm, where there are a variety of friendly helpful staff who will advise on how to breastfeed. They’ll come to your house and help you get a latch and give advice on how to express. What there wasn’t was any support at all when these things weren’t working. They had many eco friendly ideas for getting more milk, fenugreek tablets, masssage and similar, but no advice at all about formula feeding. There was no advice anywhere on the most hippy way to formula feed, it was literally years too late before I found out about glass bottles.
I’m just abit angry after reading a post last night on a forum I read regularly where some sanctimonious hippy bint said that fomula fed babies are ‘unfinished’ ….GGGGRRaaaagghHHHHHH! Oh my goodness! Whatever happened to hippies being about peace and love and supporting each other to make the best choices possible??/
It is so very sad that there are mum’s like her; that there are people who make such snap judgements without taking any other factors into consideration. Those mums who sneer at you for getting a bottle out in public like somehow yuo’re letting the side down, who don’t stop to ask whether it is in fact breast milk in that bottle.
I loathe this idea that because I don’t co-sleep that I am letting my child down. That because I don’t have her in a sling continually she is going to be deficient. I am very pleased for aforementioned sanctimonious hippy b*tch that she managed to have the natural home birth so many of us wished for, I’m so pleased for her that she breastfed with no problems, has the option of cosleeping and the time and support to be able to do all the continuum parenting she bleats on about. It is very nice that it works for her. But I do wish, wholeheartedly, that there were some folks out there who could dilute their own hippy stance on things to make it accessible for us mums who don’t have all those options. So that those of us who aren’t perfect could have support to be more hippified and eco friendly without being made to feel like a total failure for not breast feeding/co sleeping. cloth bumming.
Cos I’d put good f*cking money on bints like her and many others who have the audacity for calling me selfish and lazy for formula feeding my lactose intolerant baby don’t buy all local organic food or grow their own, that they aren’t powered entirely by green means, and that they all have cars that drink fossil fuels. I wonder if they have time to recycle or make their own shampoo from soapnuts, I wonder if they spend as much time on the net researching FSC friendly wooden fair trade toys as they do on forums making us all feel like utter failures for not parenting as they do.
My message to you so called hippys, unless you’re breastfeeding as you write your condescending message on how I’m failing my kids on a computer made with recycled plastic powered only by the sun – shut up.
Makes. me. so. angry.
would anyone be surprised if I said we’re *still* here?
19/10/2009·public·171 visits · notify me ?
we are. we have not moved anywhere at all yet. 12 days of being packed and ready to drop everything and go. Suppose I can’t really get much sympathy from a load of pregnant women approaching their due dates though haha!!! Well at least one aspect of the last bit of my pregnancy I’m still getting to experience, fabulous.I did ask the nurses what happens next, what happens if a cot doesn’t become available but they were suitably vague, said they’d just keep phoning every day. I’m trying not to worry about it, they seem confident that a cot will appear, but I’m starting to doubt it a little. One must come available at some point I suppose, bah. Trying not to worry about how the wait will affect Ivy, they don’t want to start feeds until her belly has been sorted really, and my poor little chick seems so hungry. Bless her poor poppet! But with each passing day that she’s not being treated, her going home date is going back, yeah I know we don’t have a ‘going home’ date as such, but it’s still going to delay things. So much for aiming for her due date, it seems really unlikely we’ll be home by the 28th its less than 10 days! Boo.
Ivy is still in ICU, though she has ditched her antibiotics now! Hooray! infection 2 cleared, well done poppet! Not really much to say further than that.
Just this interminable bloody waiting! Starting to send me bonkers I think.
pixiejo · you!
Updated 19/10/2009
Aw bless you Karen!!!
Yeah I must admit to being a teency bit jealous of all those lovely ladies getting to take their babies home when 9 and a half weeks in I still have to ask permission to get a cuddle and don’t get to every day 😦 Aaah our times will come!!! Waiting sucks!
Jo x
pixiejo · you!
Updated 19/10/2009
So much waiting with these babies!!! Hope the next couple of weeks goes quickly for you Antonella!
Until the babies and the cuddles come, chocolate, lots and lots of chocolate!! No point dieting before Xmas after all!! 🙂
Jo x
pixiejo · you!
Updated 21 hours ago
Heard today they’re going to start giving Ivy 0.5mil of milk every 6 hours; more of a tease than food really, bless her! But it’s a start at least 🙂
Antonella, there are crisps if you prefer! 😉 hee!
Jo, you’re right it is a long time, haven’t been able to do a proper shop for a fortnight just in case – amazing how buying little bits to last a couple of days costs so much more! I was thinking of just going to Bristol and plonking my big, fat, post pregnancy bottom down the moment anyone moves an inch to bagsy the space for Ivy. But I know that really all the cots are being taken by babies with more urgent problems and I’d feel awful for them if I did that! So indeed fingers crossed for a quick recovery for some gorgeous little mite to go home with their mum!!! 😀
Hope you’re all well lovelies xxxx
Jo x
Still here!
11/10/2009·public·190 visits · notify me ?
Ivy seems to have perked right back up, she was fairly quiet yesterday while I was there until they gave her a blood transfusion, I swear it’d only been going 5 minutes when you could see a marked improvement in here. Oxygen sats when straight up, her heart rate came back up to what I think of as normal (it had been in a normal range, but at the low end of it) and she stared wriggling! And before 10mils of new blood had gone in she was screaming and trying to suck anything that went remotely near her mouth – her hands, tubes, blankets, think she may be hungry!
She had to have a plasma transufusion too as the infection had meant her clotting factors had come right down and the consultant did not want to transfer her while she was anaemic and not clotting properly.
Please remind me to bite the bullet and give some blood when all this is done! Even if I only do it once! She’s had at least 5 red blood cell transfusions, 3 of plasma and 2 of platelets, all in such teeny tiny amounts (biggest was a grand 23 mils yesterday!), but there’s no doubt in my mind she’d not be here were it not for them. And now I feel silly for not having done it before now, having crap veins isn’t the best excuse is it? They can find veins on Ivy and all the other dinky tiny bambinis, I’m sure the people who do it everyday for their job can find mine! Right?!
Meh, anywho, no cots came available yesterday anyway. Nothing was said earlier when I called, guess we’ll see after the ward round today. Today would be a good day to go, all our babysitters are available, traffic would be ok and parking shouldn’t be too much of a nightmare; tomorrow however…..
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and the early morning call said
10/10/2009·public·237 visits · notify me ?
she is grumpy! Hurrah!
Ivy woke at 1 and demanded to know why she had not been fed for 12 hours, she’s been sucking on her dummy clearly hoping that sucking harder will produce milk! (yeah I thought dummies were evil too, amazing how a screaming baby changes your mind no?!) She’s looking a lot pinker this morning, which is fab cos she had gone an awful funny colour by the time I left last night….
And when they did the standard Bristol call at 5am (!?!?!) to check for cot availability there was not a cot, but there may well be a cot later. So still potentially go for lift off; so they must be happier with Ivy than they were yesterday!!! She’s on all the antibiotics she was on last time, and also the antibiotics they use to treat NEC even though they’re fairly sure that’s not causing the problem. Which is good cos frankly NEC sounds nasty. I have learned my lesson about googling things, repeatedly unfortunately, but this is one of the more common nasties and so it’s covered in the premmie book I have.
I’m beginning to wonder whether Ivy has in fact read the premmie book too and is using it as some kind of check list ofthings to do before she leaves hospital…..well so long as she doesn’t try and find herself a twin at this point……
THank you all so much for your lovely comments, I really appreciate it! I am honoured, humbled and flattered you all take the time to read and comment. Bless ya all, you are lovely! yuor babys and bumps are very lucky to have mummmys like you guys xxxxx
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recycled parcels all tied up with tape
Sooo today my soap nuts arrived! whoo!! No more detergent for me, well if it all goes well anyway. 2 washes down seeing as we cleared our coat hooks of winter garb, so far so good, tonight is the true test with the nappy wash! They arrived wrapped in carrier bags and loads of tape, I like recycled packaging!
I thought it may be weird that it doesn’t really sud up, but then I realised that
a) I don’t sit and watch the washing machine so honestly couldn’t tell you how much anything else sudded up anyway (well not since it was new, when for a day or two it was more interesting than the tv. 12 years of laundrette will do that to ya)
b) I don’t *think* the tesco Eco stuff I had been using sudded up much
and c) my washing machine is always crammed full, I couldn’t see bubbles and suds if I wanted too!
So having to cut down to 3/4 loads for the soap nuts to work will probably also lengthen the lifespan of the washer, which can’t be bad.
The stuff has all line dried so far, and it does feel as soft as if it had had fabric softener, which is good, but it is sort of odd that it doesn’t smell. I had got used to the yummy natural softeners I had found, the Tesco Almond milk was yummy and the new Ecover Summer Fresh smelled of lemons and coconut, it was all I could do not to eat it!! But to be honest, as yummy as they are I do want to cut back on the amount of plastic I consume, and while I can’t profess to know all that much about chemicals and their effects, I’m sure that the local water table could do without fabric softener. So as recommended in the instructions I’ll need to find a yummy essential oil to pop in teh fabric softener drawer to get everything smelling nice again, will see how that works out.
Apart from that the sun has been out, and means that everyone chats while yuo’re out, which is fab. However I couldve done without the tramp asking, in ref to Ivy asleep in her sling, if he could sleep in my bosom…..*shudders* And our local chemist is failing again, yesterday a lady I did not recognise informed me that they did not stock the pepti-junior we’ve been ordering from that very shop for the last 6 months….we managed to get 2 of our 4 tins, went back today to find that the chemist had apparently sent the wrong sort of milk. Fingers crossed that tomorrow we can get her milk, seeing as everything else will make her sick. And while I’m enjoying trying out the soapnuts, I’m not that fond of laundry!!!