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October 14, 2009 Leave a comment

14/10/2009public133 visits notify me ?

Yup we’re still in sunny Cornwall, for the time being.So thought I’d pop up here and say hi!

After all I was saying about giving blood the other day; I had blood taken yesterday by one of the neonatal drs, they did it with a butterfly thing instead of the usual vacuum things the midwives use. Sorry that’s less than clear huh? And for the first time ever I came over all wooshy as it was being done! I’ve never fainted or anything when having blood taken before, even after Violet was born when they took my blood every few hours cos of the pre-eclampsia!! Nuts! Maybe it was the watching it go down the tube…who knows!

Things are tootling along here, still not sure what’s happening re: Bristol. Ivy’s infection markers have come down, everything else seems stable, we got to have a cuddle last night too! They’ve had to put another long line in, poor chick, they had such trouble getting one in her arm, and she had cannulas in both legs at the time, so sh’es had to have it through a vein in her scalp. It sounds much worse than it is to be honest! At least in her scalp she can still swing her arms about, which she seems to enjoy, and she can’t pull on it, which has to be uncomfortable. And if the infection passes, which it looks like it is, then she can go back onto milk and it can come out again.

It’s been a tough week, hopefully we’re past the worst now. Glad that today, so far, there’s not been any phone calls. Of course it’s lovely that our families take an interest in it all, bless them. I try and keep them updated by text and, sadly, by facebook *ahem* and naturally if there was any important news I’d phone them all. But they all phone, inevitably all on the same day, and it’s tiring. I feel like I need to adjust everything I say according to how they’re taking it; when I said to my dad’s wife today that we’re still here, she started gushing about how wonderful news that was, hooray how fabulous, etc. It thoroughly confused me, I don’t know if she picked me up wrong, we are still going to Bristol, just not today….. And when I told gran that Ivy had another infection the other day she came rushing over and hovered at me. It’s tough, I don’t want to worry family unnecessarily, but I don’t want them thinking everything is just shiny either! When Violet was in hospital it was easier to let everyone believe everything was dandy, and largely everything was mainly ok, but I feel I need them to be aware of how much more delicate Ivy is. Even if just to stop them asking me when she’s coming home, which I imagine is as annoying as the questions all you pregnant ladies get ‘when is that baby coming?’ ‘haven’t you had that baby yet?’ I remember my mum getting really annoyed and telling people that in fact yes, the baby was here and she was pregnant again already. And offering people photos to save them staring…..Anyway, doesn’t really work for me. Must think of something witty.

Also I don’t want them thinking all is well cos they keep buying Ivy things, and I find it really hard to take. I’m still scared she’s not here to stay, I can’t imagine bringing her home, every time I start enjoying her something knocks us back. I have a few photos about but everything else gets put away, I don’t want to see these reminders everywhere that my baby isnt with me, even when it’s going well really. It’s lovely that they’re excited about having a new addition to the family, but in many ways I’m trying to treat it like I’m still pregnant, but the fact that she’s not home doesn’t have any impact on them, we have to live in it. I wish they’d give us the space to come to them to tell them things rather than phoning demanding all the time, I don’t have the energy for it. And the recurrence of PMT and the witch does not help any!

Wow that all turned out to be much more miserable than I had intended! Sorry! Ark at me all maudlin, when today actually things are going well. Meh. Must tidy the kitchen and phone up to see how my little chick is getting on, hooray! 馃榾

pixiejoyou!
Updated 14/10/2009

Bless you lovely! I should really only post journals after I’ve visited Ivy, when my sun is shining 馃榾 ((((big hugs)))) Thanks for your lovely message chick!

There’s also an element of excitement to the not being able to imagine her coming home though, if that makes any sense?! I know her coming home is going to change everything about all of our lives unrecognisably and I just can’t imagine it, but I am looking forward to finding out. 馃檪 And yeah in my more maudlin moments like earlier, I can’t imagine her coming home and I don’t want to try and picture it just in case she doesn’t. But I try not to think about it too much, to be honest I couldn’t picture Violet coming home either, and she’s been here for 2 years and now I can’t imagine there ever being a time when she was not here!!

Sometimes it is easier to give people the answer they want to hear when they ask how things are isnt it?! Bless you you’ve not had an easy pregnancy, I’m sure you must be sick to the back teeth of people saying stupid things like ‘oh you’ll be blooming soon’聽 so I’ll refrain 馃檪 Take care lovely xxxx

Jo x

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

*Pixiejo*

August 15, 2009 Leave a comment

Posted 15/8/09

Hi girls, Jo is being sectioned at 9am today. She’s been understandably upset overnight and the consultants offered to deliver her baby girl then but she’s held off to let the steroids take effect properly. She says that baby should weigh about 750g which is about 1.7lbs and that everything looks fine with bubs.

She thanks everyone for their kind thoughts and wants everyone to know that she really does appreciate it. She’s gutted about the fact that no matter how well things go this morning, she’ll still have to leave hospital without her baby again (like she had to with Violet).

Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for her. (((hugs))) to Jo and her family!聽

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

anyone else packed and ready?

August 1, 2009 Leave a comment

pixiejoyou!

Posted 1/8/09

My hospital bag is now officially packed and ready to go, and Violet’s stuff is all at the bottom of the stairs ready if she has to be shipped off at short notice too.

I know that sounds really over eager, but I’m 27+4 now and I went in at 32 weeks last time and I’ve been in day assesment twice in the last fortnight with niggles, once overnight! Such things focus the mind a bit!tho with my total lack of brain right now I’m sure I’ve forgotten some rather vital things, more than likely!

So anyone else packed??

Jo x

pixiejoyou!
Updated 1/08/2009

I’m only this organised cos I had nothing at all when I was taken into hospital last time. Didn’t even have my phone or change to call someone and ask for stuff! I dread it happening again!

lists are good!! I could’ve made my life a lot easier by starting from a list, I’ve been really haphazard about it! I may go find a list and then check stuff off it…..Sure I probably wont need the bag for so long this time I’ll have forgotten whats in it anyway!

Jo x

pixiejoyou!
Updated 1/08/2009

Now see after last time I’d kinda recommend letting your hubby go and get stuff from Mothercare 馃檪 my DH got sent last time and he had no clue what to buy he just got the most expensive (Lansinoh) breast pads and nipple cream, which were lovely! and spent much more on babyclothes than I would’ve done cos he was so scared of getting it wrong! Dear of him! Think he liked doing the dad thing too; I may have to ‘forget’ some bits again

Jo x

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

2nd consultant appointment down

pixiejoyou!

Posted 24/6/09

Hiya all,

2nd appointment down and I’ve come out of it really bleugh. I had the registrar rather than my consultant or the bloke I saw last time who was lovely, and while he is the man who delivered my beautiful Violet I hope I don’t see him again! He managed to give me exactly the same stats as the bloke I saw last time but in a really negative way which is sorta sh*te. The guy I saw last time was really happy for me to try for a normal natural birth and he said that the statistics were in my favour, I have a 70/80% chance, he even said he’d be happy to induce me as the risk is only 2%. The guy I saw today just kept going on about uterine rupture and how there’s a 1 in 200 chance of it happening, and how that risk increases if yuo’re induced. Gotta be honest I’m not a betting woman, but I’d not put money on something that only had a 1 in 200 chance of happeneing, would you?!?

I suppose it’d be a fair assumption that seeing as he did my last c-section that he’d be more up for doing it again, cos that what he does? Who knows! Also the last fella I saw said I’d see a consultant at 28 weeks, but this guy hasn’t booked me back in until I’m 32 weeks along, 10 weeks time…..I am so confused! I do get another scan at 30 weeks to see how bubba is growing tho, so not all bad 馃檪聽 But like, the consultant today said to give this bit of paper to Andrea (I have no clue who Andrea is, even now!!) to arrange the scan, so I accost a random passing member of staff, who immediately drags me into another waiting room to try and get the scan done today, on the basis that there’s ‘no time like the present’…well apart from the 10 weeks to soon part, I suppose not.

Amazing how the same statistics can sounds really positive from one person and awfully negative from another. Sorry for the essay! Hope yuo’re all well! x

Jo x

pixiejoyou!
Updated 24/06/2009

Indeed! Glad you managed to get appointments with yuor consultant, maybe it’s just these registrar folkses that like to bum us out? Now I have an image of them getting toegther and plotting how they can spin stuff negatively…..

I’m trying to look at it that it was my local (non-maternity) hospital I saw this guy at today, so therefore he’s not always at the maternity ward, so I’d have to really fairly unlucky to get him in my labour again right?!?! haha! I’m off to try that microwave mug cake from the current cravings thread, that’ll make it all better! 馃檪

Jo x

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

You’re all wonderful!

pixiejoyou!

Posted 22/5/09

You are you know, all of you!

After waiting for the scan to relax and go hooray I’m pg, it really threw me to have that happen yesterday! I really, really appreciate all your kind messages! I could hug you all!!

I keep thinking oooh I can’t wait to be able to feel regular baba movement, then I’ll not worry as much…even tho I know that’s not true, then I’ll be kick counting and drinking loads of cold water to make the poor little thing wriggle, that’s exactly what I did to DD! poor girly 馃檪

It’s all much better today, but I’m still a bit over-hormonal and likely to weep at Andrex adverts and the like, so I’m going to go before I start gushing at you all 馃槈 thanks all xxxx

Jo x

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

Seen the consultant!

pixiejoyou!

Posted 20/5/09

Hi all, hope everyone is well!

Got to see my consultant today and he was lovely! GOt lots of numbers chucked at me, I’ve double the chance of getting pre-eclampsia again as I did first time, but that’s still only 30% chance, which is better than I thought. And even if I do get it again it’s likely not to be as bad as it was last time 馃檪 And he’s right behind me having a natural birth, says I’ve a good chance of doing it all normally which is fab! I was worried I’d have to have another section, but all being well I wont have to! Hooray!

I will have a ridiculous amount of appointments though, I’ll be seen every fortnight til 28 weeks then once a week til 40! I’m really glad my midwife and consultant seem really nice or that could be a total nightmare! And I guess by the time this little one arrives I’m going to be really good at aiming for those teeny tiny pee bottles. Only a 5minute appointment too I was expecting it to take ages!

Midwife tomorrow for 16 week too, fingers crossed we’ll get to hear the heartbeat!!

Jo x

pixiejoyou!
Updated 20/05/2009

I’m glad it’s not just me that has trouble with the tiny bottles! Aren’t they awful? Clearly designed by a bloke 馃檪 A funnel sounds like a really good idea, I may have to go buy one specially if I’m going to have to do it this often! Cracking idea! Sro, after the hassle some other ladies have had with appointments it’s a shame I can’t lend some of em out! I know I had to fight really hard to get booked in and stuff. Gone from feeling ignored to practically living in the drs!!

HI Laura hon, I had to see them this early to discuss my ‘plan of care’ after all the drama with my DD, I was meant to se them at 15 weeks, but sort of accidentally skipped that with all the date changing, I’m 17 weeks today. They only said about the actual birth bit cos I asked them, my next appointment with them is at 22weeks, which I think is when they were going to talk about it more…but I’m not sure tbh. You should check with your midwife, just to be sure tho, maybe just saying to her what you wanna do will be enough? Hope you get the birth you want either way! xxx

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html

Jo x

Consultant appointmants

pixiejoyou!

Posted 18/5/09

Hi ladies,

I know a few of you also have to see your consultant around now and I was wondering what sort of thing goes on at the appointment? Mainly cos it doesn’t look like my DH is going to make it cos of work, boo 馃槮

I had a fab pregnancy with my DD until 32 weeks when I was diagnosed with serisou pre-eclampsia and my kidneys failed, so she was delivered the next day by emergency section. So I know they have a variety of things they’ll want to talk to me about! Now I feel like a naughty schoolgirl for even contemplating doing it all again, even though I discussed it with my Dr beforehand….So will they be disapproving? No that’s silly, they can;t be can they?? Wah!!

Right so what I wanna know from you other ladies that’ve had consultants apps, is it a long appointment? Like more than half an hour long? Do they do any tests or anything while you’re there, like internals or even having a look at my scar or whatnot? (mainly cos if my DH can’t come I may ask another family member and I’d like to preserve a little dignity if poss!) What sorta things do they talk about, is it here that I have to decide what sort of birth I want, will I get chance to change my mind afterwards?? Aaah so many questions!!! Help anyone please!!!

TIA xxx

Jo x

pixiejoyou!
Updated 18/05/2009

Hiya,

Thanks ladies! So I really am getting me knickers in a twist for nothing then? 馃檪 Well that’s good I suppose!!

thanks Baby Maddie! I thought an extra sneaky scan would be a bit much to hope for, but you never know!! 馃檪 From what my Dr said when I asked him about having another baby this’ll be the appointment when they go over my notes and decide whether I need any aspirin to keep my blood pressure from spiking again. It’s good to know what to expect though, understandably there’s lots of info about normal midwife ppointments and nothing about consultants and stuff! Anyway, I’ll let you know if they do anything outlandish!

Thanks very much both of you xxx

Jo x

originally posted on babycentre community board; x-posted to www.handprints.org.uk/pixiejos-previous-blogs.html